Post 7: Getting Real With Yourself

Ok, it’s time to get real. With yourself. For some this can be confronting. For some it may be too difficult to be completely and brutally honest with ourselves. We may think we are being honest with ourselves but take a closer look, take a step back and observe what you really feel and think and you may be surprised. We all talk the talk to show the world that we care, that we are good and responsible capable human beings. But the truth is we carry a lot of bullshit. You see we think we can hide and show the best versions of ourselves so that we may feel accepted by the people we surround ourself, but the truth is we can never hide from our self, our own voice, our own reflection in the mirror. We can fill our life with distractions, excuses, blame etc but in the end we are accountable and responsible for our own lives, what we think, what we feel, what we put up with, what decisions we make.

Imagine you will, being the producer, director and actor of your life. Denying that you are not the creator of your reality is like sitting in the audience of your own stage show/film then complaining about what you don’t like. Looking at the stage and thinking mmm I don’t like that character. Well why did you bring that character into your life? Or, I don’t like the way I’m behaving or how I treat other people, well why are you doing this and allowing this to play out? Didn’t you write the script? Didn’t you create the story that you see unfolding before your eyes? How about changing the next scene? How about saying enough of that character and start imprinting a new version of yourself in the reality you are creating. 

But back to getting real. How many times have you disempowered yourself. For example complimenting someone but secretly hating the fact you don’t have what they have. And feeling a sense of lack inside. A sense of jealousy but pretending you’re ok and happy. In that instance you are handing your power over to them and what you are really saying is I can’t have that, I am not worthy of that or I am not willing to do the work to have what I think I need or am lacking. It’s all a reflection of self. We either have the awareness of our own inner bullshit and recognise this or stay stuck in a powerless, victim state of mind and being. The key is to trust, allow and know you have the power within you. You are not lacking. There is more power in saying that I am lying to myself, what can I do to evolve and grow, than to outwardly lie merely to maintain appearances or to people please. Let go of what people think, they will have a judgement and think what they think anyway. That’s one thing you can’t control. 

So, recognise your own inner bullshit. Get real. Even if it’s I’m too scared and afraid and don’t feel good enough to claim my power and start living my authentic truth, start there. Be vulnerable with yourself. There is great power in this as it will align to your inner wisdom and higher self. Remember no one has the power to make you happy but you, you are your own worst enemy or own best friend. You decide, you choose. 

Rob Ipsen